Chapter Two: The Story of Ralph and Mary Carey

Ralph farmed with both his and Mary's fathers for awhile after they were married. This was beneficial because the families were close neighbors and could all be together. But after the first sons were born to Ralph and Mary, Leonard Leon, in 1911 and Frank Edgar, in 1913, Ralph began to long for a home on land he could call his own. He heard about land in Wyoming offered Lester Goebel, Mary's brother, Mary and Frank (Doc)  Goebel, her homesteads, and left in 1913 with friends to see for himself.

He read the laws as to what was required. He must build a dwelling place, break land, and sow forty acres, and also live on the land. Three years were allowed to accomplish this. Ralph chose an area of three-hundred-and-twenty acres, fifteen miles South East of Wheatland, Wyoming, in an area known as the Hudson Valley.

Mary, Leonard and Frank soon came to Wyoming too. Of course Ralph had not had time to build a house, but had made arrangements to live with a cousin who was homesteading six mile to the North. They traveled to Wheatland by train. Mary's first impressions were, "How lonely! and this terrible wind that seems to blow continually!" Only five houses could be seen on the way from Wheatland to the homestead site. As it turned out, living with the cousins didn't work out very well, so after staying for a short time, Mary and the boys returned to Oklahoma.

In a few months Ralph sent for his family again. He met them at the depot with a team and lumber wagon. After a long, tiresome train ride, they still had a slow, bumpy fifteen miles to cover.

Ralph had been busy while Mary was away. He had built a twelve by fourteen foot sod house. Most of it was underground, with about three feet of wall above. The "soddy" had three windows, one each in the East and West sides and one in the door facing the South. The walls were plastered inside and the floor was of wide boards. It was a warm, cozy home.

Before Mary arrived, Ralph had bought a cook stove from a neighbor. The door hinges were broken, but it worked fine so long as they could keep the door propped with a stick of wood. Ralph also made a table with two benches and cupboards for the dishes and food supplies. They had one double bed and a trundle bed for the boys. Mary used the trunk for their clothes and linens, since they had no closets. Later on, a friend from Oklahoma, who was also moving to Wyoming, offered to help them. He had engaged an "immigrant car" for shipping his belongings and made room for Mary's sewing machine, a team of horses, and a plow.

By now Ralph was seeing the fulfillment of his dream: Land of his own, his own home and Mary and boys with him. Mary would look out over those vast reaches of loneliness and say, "Ralph, what do you see in all this?" and "Why do you want to live in such a place?" But he saw more than the windswept acres of buffalo grass. He saw a future--and independence.
Mary would stay until she felt she couldn't stand it another day. Then with the help of their parents, Ralph would purchase a train ticket, help her pack, and she and the boys would go "home" for a visit. Ralph's mother would say, "Just stay here Mary. When he sees you aren't coming back, he'll give up that dream of his and come back too."

But Ralph just couldn't leave the homestead, and eventually Mary would return to try again. After a third trip and more children arrived, it become too difficult to travel. Mary found it easier to just stay and cope the best she could.

Helen Elizabeth was born on January 1, 1915. A neighbor lady who lived about two miles away assisted in the delivery. How proud they were of their first daughter. She had dark hair and dark brown eyes, "Like Grandma Culbertson."

Old truck in the snowWhen Helen was twelve days old, a terrible wind storm came roaring through the area. Mary had just picked Helen up to hold her when the wind lifted the roof, letting fall a huge pile of dirt on the bed before it settled back down again. Mary's father was visiting at the time and helped Ralph with temporary repairs. They carried rocks in a wash tub and piled them on the roof. It took seven tubs full before they felt it was secure.

Poisonous snakes were a real worry! One summer evening the boys were playing, crawling on hands and knees around the house, down the slanting doorway and out and around again. Later Mary found a dead snake by the path the boys had used for their game. They never knew what or who could have killed it. We can surely say that God watched over them on that homestead, so far from medical help. Although snakes were plentiful and Mary was so very afraid of them, not one member of the family was ever bitten.

Ralph broke the land with horses and a walking plow. He planted beans and corn with a hand planter. After the crops were in, Ralph took jobs with other farmers on irrigated land close to Wheatland. This was necessary, and the only way to get enough money together to live another year. This way, too, he could be home with the family during the winter.

HorsesHe went to and from work on horseback, and would return home each Saturday evening with groceries in a gunny sack tied to the saddle. There provisions had to last the week, until he could come home again. On Sunday, Ralph would haul a barrel of water from the neighbors. He used a team and a home-made sled-like device he had made. This barrel of water had to last a week--for cooking, cleaning, drinking, washing and bathing. Sometimes the neighbors charged five cents for the water.

Ralph would leave on Sunday afternoon to ride the fifteen miles back to Wheatland, to be ready for work the next day. Then another lonely week would begin for Mary. How afraid she was! How long it seemed until the next Saturday night, when Ralph came home again. He worried about leaving them and was anxious until Saturday came so he could go home for a few hours to see if all was well.

Ralph Carey and Bob Allborgh sawing wood, 1939At this time, Wyoming had no range laws and there were no fences. People who raised cattle allowed them to roam free and feed on the grass, checking them occasionally to see that they did not stray too far. One neighbor was especially careless about taking care of his cattle, and Mary had to run and drive them out of the grain that had been gathered and stored. At times, they even attempted to drink from the barrel of precious water!

One day, Ralph brought home a little black dog named Jack. He was sure Jack could be trained to chase the cows and so relieve Mary of this chore. How excited the boys were when they saw the cows headed for the corn pile! Jack would chase them, bite their legs and save the day! But much to their disappointment, Jack was afraid of the cows and refused to leave the house while they were near. This day Mary felt desperate and so angry at the cows and the helplessness she felt about it all that she loaded up the shot-gun ran out, aimed into the herd, and fired. BOOM! What a kick the gun had! Mary, somewhat subdued, picked herself up, rubbing her shoulder which would carry a bruise for several days.

Farm with cowsJack did give them one exciting day. A neighbor came to visit, driving a Model T Ford. When he tried to crank the car to leave, 'ol Jack came leaping out and grabbed the seat of his pants. So the man would cease cranking until Jack calmed down. When he attempted to crank again, Jack would grab hold again. The boys finally held the dog until the neighbor could get away.
In the Winter of 1916 many of the people in Hudson Valley were very ill with a flu. Mary and Ralph were too, and finally reached the point of weakness or perhaps a state of delirium, that they could no longer keep the fire going. They awoke to the noise of someone in the house. A neighbor (a distant relative) had stopped by to see them. He was building the fire. The Careys were thankful for a good friend who cared--and came just in time.

For a short time in 1917, Ralph worked for a farmer near Wheatland who furnished houses for his hired help. Mary and the children were able to move there, so they could be together. During this time Nellie May was born. They were able to pay for and obtain a doctor to come to the house this time.

In 1918, Ralph built a two-room frame house about a half-mile to the North of the homestead. It was much nicer and roomier. Relatives were always welcome at the Careys'. Ralph's parents came to visit several times. Even in the small house they were made to feel welcome. Mr. Goebel came to spend several winters. He always brought his fiddle and made the evenings lively with his music. Mary especially liked this. She used to say, "I was raised on fiddle music." Hazel Inez was born in 1919, in this home in Hudson Valley.

Boys of the Carey School 1932The Careys were anxious to have a school near enough for the children to walk to. Leonard, at age eight, had attended a school two-and-a-half miles away. It was such a worry to see him have to walk so far. With so many other complications his attendance was erratic. Finally it was decided to build a school on the school section three quarter of a mile to the South of the Carey place. Ralph, with a team and wagon, hauled the cement, lumber and other materials needed to build the school. They piled the sacks of cement in the kitchen where it would keep dry until needed--but the weight broke the floor! The school was finally built and named "Carey School" in appreciation of the efforts of Ralph and Mary. The five oldest were graduated from the eighth grade there. Later, as many little country schools were consolidated, the Carey School also was no longer needed. Even though the echoes of its last students faded long ago, the building itself can still be seen today, used now as a bunk house on the Hal Ashenhurst place, about five miles from its original location.

Photo from Miss Hobson:Carey School in Arpil  1933In 1923, the four in school came home with an exciting tale about a teacher not feeling well. She had told them she was afraid she had the measles. This was disturbing news for Mary, because she was pregnant and had not yet had the measles herself. It was expected that Leonard, Frank, Helen and Nellie would all get the measles after being exposed by the teacher. Mary was very much concerned about the welfare of the baby.

It was decided that just before the incubation period for measles was ending and the older children would be getting them, Mary and Hazel would go to live in a house about a mile away. The owners were not living there at the time and gave their consent. Ralph would have to nurse the older children through the illness alone. This plan was never carried out, as the doctor decided it was unnecessary. He believed that Mary was far enough along in her pregnancy to be safe.

The four children had the measles and Ralph and Mary nursed them through the illness together. Then, as Mary had feared, she and Hazel got them too. Early in her sickness, Mary knew all was not well with the baby, and eventually miscarried.
Mary could remember seeing two little feet and asked the doctor about the baby. He said, "It was a boy." Mary asked to see the baby, but the doctor replied, "No, Mrs. Carey, you don't want to see this baby." She remembered the doctor giving a bundle to Ralph, and afterwards realized he had had to bury the baby. He refused to talk about it or tell where he made the little grave. Mary always like the name of Carlas. Perhaps the baby would have been given that name.

The Carey family were all avid readers who made good use of the library when it was opened in Wheatland. They each had a library card as soon as they were eligible. When Ralph went to town he would stop by the library and get as many books as the rules would allow. Mary liked Zane Grey's Western stories and read every one the library carried. It was always an exiting time when Dad cam home with the new books. The family spent many a pleasant evening around the big heating stove with a pan of popcorn and a good book. They could read and dream of far away places.

Sometimes a neighbor would give a house party. Each family would take a cake, home-made ice-cream or sandwiches. The "old folks" usually played "Pitch" and the young ones played "Skip to my Lou" or similar games. Barn dances were popular too. Ralph and Mary loved to square dance and Ralph was asked to call them quite often. There were welcome breaks in the routine of farm work and raising children. Usually the family went together, but sometimes Ralph would buy a sack of peanuts in the shell and the children would stay home and have a real treat!

Ralph raised beans and found he could get better price if he could say they were and-picked. So after supper he would pour a pile of beans in the center of the kitchen table. The family gathered around and separated the good beans from the cracked ones; the rocks and other debris. This really wasn't hard. They made a fun time of it and ti became on of those "good memories".

They raised a large garden. Mary would can everything she possibly could in preparation for the winter ahead. It was years before she had a pressure canner, and so used the boiling water method. The food was put into jars, then onto a rack in the wash boiler. They had to boil many hours on the cook stove, using wood and a fire. This was a hard, hot, grueling job, but necessary for their welfare. Mary would can as much as 500 quarts in a season. These were put into a cellar along with potatoes, squash and other staples.

In those days, visits from the neighbors were few and far between. It was hard to find time or a way to travel. Mary never went to Wheatland for a period of seven years. With the small children, chores to do and a thirty-mile round-trip by wagon, it was just easier to stay home.

The Twins: Lester Ralph and Lawrence HarveyOn December 3, 1925, the Wheatland Times published this report:
" Event of Historical Import Eventuates Sunday in Hudson Valley…While the first white child born in Wheatland may be a matter for future historians to battle over, and the first born in Hudson Valley may also be a matter for debate and research by recorder of times to come, there is one historical fact that Times wishes to put on record while it is still fresh-and that is that the first twins born in the Hudson Valley and Eagle's Nest territories were born Sunday morning November 29, to Mr. and Mrs. Ralph Carey. Both are boys and both are reported to be in first class health"

Lawrence and Lester CareyThe twins were named Lawrence Harvey and Lester Ralph. They were not strong babies and since the November weather was bitterly cold, many anxious hours were spend caring for them. One neighbor, considering the financial situation of the Careys', made a special trip to visit, and before leaving asked for one the babies! Unthinkable!

Mary was quit ill for a week for some time. Helen and Nellie, ten and eight years of age, did much of the housework. A woman was hired to help out as well. Mom was really missed by her family, and it was a happy day when she was up and about-and doing her good cooking again.

Lester, Kenneth and Lawrence CareyKenneth Dale was born in 1939. This delivery was not as traumatic for Mary, and she recovered rapidly.

In *1927, Ralph bought a house from a farmer about ten miles away. It had four room, two upstairs. He moved it with a team of horses, dragging it on logs across the fields. He also bought a one room house from about three miles away. He moved the old two room house out to be used as a grainery and put the one-room and the four-room home with an upstairs! One room was not finished for several years, but made a handy store room.
*(not sure of date)

One wonders how many today would expend such an effort. It seems an impossible task to feed and clothe a family of ten, put a home together for their comfort, and be always eager to plan and dream for another year, another crop, more improvements, and a better environment for those who looked to him for security.

When Leonard and Frank were about 15 years old, they were able to work for other farmers. They too had a desire to be out on their own and have money to spend.

Helen, Lester, Lawrence, Kenny, Leonard, Nellie (Nan), Hazel and Frank CareyOne of the first items Leonard bought was a linoleum rug for his mother's kitchen floor. Mary was very proud of the pretty floor and the way it could be cleaned so easily. Both Leonard and Frank helped to buy a Maytag washer with a gasoline motor. This was like a bit of paradise! How many hours Mary has spent scrubbing clothes on a washboard, and then for a time on a hand-powered washing machine. Now here washdays were almost fun. Of course the water for washing still was carried in pails from the well and heated on the coal stove in a broiler, but how she loved that Maytag!

During the time the Careys lived on the farm, the area became quite well populated. Farm homes were on nearly every section of land. Before Mary left the farm in 1956, many of those neighbors had gone. People were forced out because of crop failures brought on by hail, wind and drought. Some gave up the struggles against the elements and mortgage payments, and moved on again to try some other place. In 1947 Mary's father passed away, leaving her a small inheritance. This was used to purchase an additional three-hundred and twenty acres of land from a neighbor who was giving up and moving on.